Kindness is something that the world has forgotten. We live in a world of an attitude of mind your own business, keep to your space, you do your thing, I do mine. This is a world of indifference. Worse, it is turning into a hostile world. In a relationship, isn't it becoming normal for couples to get irritated with one another. The longer they stay with each other, the more they get into each other's way. Then they poke at each other, they jab and stab at each other, not physically, but with words. They hit each other with the most possible hurting words, criticizing the other person for not being this or not being that. They forget why they married their partner in the first place. This is a love relationship advice problem. The reason why this happens is because we think only about ourselves. We think only about our feelings. We got hurt by what our partner said, or we got hurt by what our partner did. And so our first impulse is to hit back with hurting words. When we get ourselves to be self-centered, we think only about ourselves, our feelings. Our world is ourselves. We don't care about the others. We don't care if our partner is hurting or hurt by what we said or did. We don't care about what he or she feels. Truly a love relationship advice problem, we only care about ourselves. We forget the words in the Holy Book... Be kind to one another, compassionate, forgiving one another as God has forgiven you in Christ. The ridiculous part about arguments is that it normally starts with a small incident. The incident may even be insignificant. I remember one time that I was driving to a new place to pick up my daughter. She had called my wife for instructions to go to the place where she was waiting. Unfortunately, the instructions relayed to me was incomplete. When we got to the place where I thought my daughter was, I got a bit upset to find out that it was a different building and I didn't know which building she was waiting. One of my pet peeves is to drive to a place that is not clear in my mind. I normally want to know exactly where my destination is and not just a building somewhere in that area. My being upset lead to upsetting my wife. Although we eventually found the building where my daughter was waiting, the mood in the air was sour and heavy. All because of a small, insignificant thing. This is the point where we forget to be kind to one another. It will help to overcome this by accepting and making the first move to apologize one's mistake. It does not matter who is right or wrong in this case. It does not matter who started the argument. It does not matter who wins the argument. What matters is to be kind to one another, to forgive and to forget. And only then will unity in the relationship be restored. The four most difficult words to say in a phrase is I'm sorry, I was wrong. But what is the alternative to building a healthy relationship? To continue a silent war? Or to continue with conversations full of barbs and cuts? Shouldn't the better solution be to be kind to one another, forgiving each other? Few couples realize that life is short. And life can be full of regrets if we are not careful to nurture our relationship. Let's not let this be a love advice relationship problem. Lets think of these better solutions. Make a positive step in building a healthy relationship. Live life to the fullest. Be kind to one another. |
