Love yourself first! This is the clear message that is being conveyed everywhere now. I was recently tuning into a spiritual program and the author of a book discussed the importance of loving oneself. The other person who was doing the interviewing had also written a book and emphasized the need to love oneself first. Its very extraordinary what is happening. Keep reading as I want to share a very beautiful poem with you by a young girl who was a classmate of my daughters in high school. I love growing and learning about myself to know and love ME even more profoundly. With this said, its my relationships that teach me the most and where I get the greatest AHAs. I have been dating someone exclusively for about nine months. We both read the book, The Five Love Languages, and identified what love language we needed. If you havent read the book, there are five love languages we use to show our love for someone. My top one was hearing affirmations: You are wonderful. You are intelligent. You are a Goddess. Okay, he doesnt have to go that farwell, maybe. There were challenges in him saying the things I needed to hear and we had some discussions in trying to problem solve the situation. Over the course of a few months, I realized that even though I had identified what I needed, it doesnt mean that the other person has resolved things in his or her mind. He has his own stuff that he had to work through in order for it to be okay to say these loving things. My bringing it up all the time was not going to get him here faster; it was only causing problems. I then let it gonot completely, but I was learning to allow things to happen naturally. Then I had to ask myself some questions. Even though I discovered I like hearing affirmations from him, what inside me needed it? Over these past two months, I realized I could provide myself with these affirmations. I didnt need to go looking anywhere else for them, but right here with me. When I discovered this AHA, I havent needed it. I am already whole and complete. Now, I only see him with such profound love because Im learning more and more to love myself first. Remember, this is a work in progress. We never get there. Its a daily evolution of learning, growing and loving..ourselves first! Being healthy, being our ideal weight has so much to do with loving ourselves. When we are overweight and arent healthy, we have to ask ourselves, What do I need to change to love myself more? Ive witnessed too many people lose the weight, but then put it right back on because they didnt step into the love for themselves. They kept searching for it on the outside. I want to share a poem with you that my daughters classmate wrote to her when she was a sophomore in high school. Christine, the author, understood the important of loving the self. Its primarily geared towards women, but men can benefit from it as well by just reversing the references to gender. Enjoy: Our mothers
And their mothers before them
Married a man
Because he was the one
Or so they thought
Because the divorce rate is high.
And now,
There is pressure
Not from our mothers
But from our hearts
To find the ONE.
In a hurry to grow up
Because that is what
Our parents have said to us
Since we were only 5.
And while the rush through life
We women forget
That we must grow alone
First!
We do not need a boy
A guy
A man
To confirm our worth
To confirm our womanliness.
We need to learn how to
Breathe first and alone
We need to cherish
Our young days of freedom
Because one day
We might just be wives and mothers
But dont let that be your only existence.
Be a woman first
It is okay to not know
What your heart is doing
It is wrong though
To force your heart to like
Or worse
To love
Some boy
Some guy
Some man
Because you do not love yourself
Enough. I found this poem when I was cleaning out some things recently. It spoke to my heart and I wanted to share it with you. It brings tears when I read it. God loves you and thats all that matters. He created you with love. Demonstrate for Him how much you love Him by loving yourself by treating your body with love at all times. What are you going to do today to show Him how grateful you are? I can help you learn how to fall in love with yourselfin a simple, manageable way. You are enough! |
