Sometimes when we are seeking potential dating partners we may not know exactly what we want, and therefore we do not always choose wisely. Knowing what you are seeking is a great way to know you are going to be happy with your choices. So often we may make close, but not quite right choices when dating just to have a relationship, that we are doomed to fail before we even get started. Are you looking for someone to fulfill you spititually, emotionally, or something else? We should ask ourselves are we looking to have a casual or a committed relationship? Being in synch on the reality of the relationship is highly important. We need to make known to someone how we feel either way. If you are with someone that is desiring a more casual relationship than we are, we are bound to feel unhappy when they express they want to see other people. While we may be in tune for a more serious relationship, we really need to be with people who also feel the same way. What goals do we have in mind when it comes to a relationship? Are we looking for a marriage partner? Do we desire a fun person to hang out with on the weekends? Or are we somewhere inbetween. If we are looking for a person to hang out with, and if the person you are going out with is looking to settle down, your going to have a huge mismatch because people are looking for different things. While you may have a person that seems like they are the right person, but if your end goals are different, neither person will be happy in the end. What are we looking for a relationship to accomplish in your life is also something to consider in a relationship. Are we looking for someone we can grow with spiritually? Choosing a dating partner who does not value spirituality is not a good choice. Are we looking for someone to connect with emotionally? You have to choose someone who cares about emotions and how people feel to feel satisfied. You really need to know what you are looking for to be satisfied in dating? It helps you choose and eliminate people that may not be appropriate for you. If you are looking settled down, it is unlikely that a person who is looking for someone to hang out with will work for you. Make sure you find out a little bit about what the other person values, and is looking for before settling into the relationship. Careful selection will definitely assist you in finding people that are more appropriate for you. |
