You would think that older women dating younger men would be generally accepted by now, but a lot of people still regard it as something outside the norms of dating and relationships. Let's face it: we live in predominantly patriarchal society, and even though feminist movements and women's rights groups have come a long way, old habits die hard. Some may even argue if it's still a patriarchal society we're living in, since women have been increasingly successful in their quest on equality with men. However, we need to consider the way we have been trained to see things. I mean patriarchal in the sense that women are oftentimes seen as deficient, like when girls fail to live up to Barbie doll figures, they are castigated for falling short. So when we hear and read about other women, usually celebrities, dating younger men and even getting married to them, we rationalize. We reason out that it's acceptable for them because they are hot property precisely because they are celebrities or they came from a good family. If you are ten years older than the man you are dating but and it's a big BUT you have fabulous long legs and amazingly clear skin and you've built a name already, who cares, right? They are the alpha females: the rich, the famous, and the gorgeous people who can get away it. The thing is that anybody can get away with it. So what if the guy looks like your friend's kid brother, or if people stare at you when you walk hand-in-hand? You are not dating the whole society, just a single man. And if that man is making you happy and is treating you right, who's to say you shouldn't go for it? You may look a bit older compared to him, but what's that if he goes making you feel like an alpha female, right? So the next time a younger man comes up to you, don't shy away. Who knows, he might be able to show you the star quality he sees in you. |
