Online dating is fun. You could meet new friends and expand your social circle. Better yet, you might have the match you have been looking for.
If you havent tried online dating, there are some things you could keep in mind.
1. Start slow
Try searching on reputable online dating sites. You should look out for someone who is too good to be true on the first time. Your should trust your instincts.
2. Protect yourself
You should not reveal your true identity until you feel that you can reveal it to the other person and feel comfortable about doing so. Do not instantly give your full name, contact numbers, home address, and other details where others can check your profile.
3. Exercise common sense and caution
Practice caution in easily trusting other people. Use common sense in making decisions. Take your time in determining the persons integrity and motives. Pay attention every time you communicate.
4. Ask for a photo
Ask for a photo of a prospective match, not just because you want to see if he or she is good-looking. If possible, ask for several photos in different settings: Formal, casual, outdoors, and indoors. In that way you would have an idea of what he or she looks like.
5. Do not just chat via online
An electronic chat would not suffice. Do phone conversations with him or her, as these would show social and communication skills. Avoid calling at home. Try calling from a cell phone or a telephone booth. Only when you are completely comfortable should you give your home number.
6. Meet only when you are completely ready
Meet only when you feel secure and ready to meet your online date. Do not feel obliged or persuaded to meet the other person even if he or she insists, if you are not yet ready.
7. Check for danger
If you decided to finally meet him or her, pay close attention to any violent displays, intense frustration, or moves to control or pressure you.
8. Meet only in a secured place
When meeting your date, especially for the first time, meet him or her in a safe place. Tell a friend or someone who your date is and your plans for tonight. Set a time during your date where your friend can call you and ask if everything is okay.
It is better to be safe than sorry. Online dating has some perks, but it also has its pitfalls. |
